There's a version of my life where I spent thirty years in education and called it a career. I was capable of it. I had the degrees, the classroom management, the lesson plans, the parent phone calls. I could do the job.
That's exactly the problem.
Doing What You Can vs. Doing What You Love
I went into education because I could — because the path was visible, the need was real, and it felt like a responsible answer to the question every history major eventually faces: now what? For a while, I told myself that was enough.
It wasn't.
I know what it looks like when someone teaches from genuine passion. I've watched those teachers. They don't just explain the material — they light up when the room starts to understand something. The job gives back as much as they put in. For me, it was different. I was giving more than I had every single day, performing an enthusiasm that wasn't really there. And teaching is hard enough when you love it — it's one of the most demanding jobs that exists — but doing it while pretending is a different kind of exhausting. My students deserved better. So did I.
What I Actually Care About
My passion has always been the arts. Making a message into a visual experience. Taking something abstract — an idea, an emotion, a brand identity — and giving it a shape that communicates before a single word is read.
Graphic design is, for me, the perfect marriage of two things I've loved all my life: technology and art. It lets me be precise and creative at the same time, analytical and expressive. I honestly don't know how I went as long as I did without recognizing it as the obvious answer.
Actually, I do know.
The Excuses I Made the First Time
When I was in college for my undergraduate degree, I looked at the arts programs. Really looked. But I was also working two part-time jobs, and I talked myself out of it — convinced myself there was no way I could handle the required studio hours and keep the jobs that were paying for things. Looking back, that was one of the most expensive mental shortcuts I've ever taken. If I could go back and kick myself for it, I would.
The second excuse was geography. I didn't want to leave home. And honestly, there weren't many graphic design opportunities near my hometown back then — or so I told myself. A small-town, practical concern.
Except here's the irony: I'm writing this from my house. Nearly two and a half hours from where I grew up. Because life had other plans and didn't ask for my input before rearranging things.
The Twenties I Mostly Can't Get Back
I blinked, and the majority of my twenties happened. They were shaped by things I didn't choose — personal tragedy, hard stretches, a world that kept upending itself, and a career that quietly drained me day after day. A low-grade, sustained dissatisfaction with the daily routine is its own kind of slow damage. It compounds.
Eventually I sat down and had a real conversation — first with Natalie, then with my parents — about pursuing yet another degree. They never rolled their eyes. But they asked the hard questions, the kind that deserve honest answers:
Can you afford it? Is this one for real? What about everything you already have?
I answered every one of them with the same thing underneath: because I am passionate about this.
That was a new answer for me. And it felt like the right one.